S2 E5: Shame on who?

Shame, one of the most powerful human emotions, can lead us to conceal parts of ourselves. But what if we feel shame about our cultural heritage? Together we explore how shame may manifest in children of immigrants.

Shadi Sharif (left) & Sheila Pahlavan (right)

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